Make sure that you spend some time working on your reach out texts to your ex before the end of your NC. Like, I think it was the second time I broke it is because I had accidentally had screen shotted something of his Snapchat and it sent a notification to him and I was like, “Crap,” now I got to re-start it. How Rachel Got Her Long Distance Ex Back. Your conversations go from random contacts to communicating regularly over a period of time. This is a last minute thing and we just popped in here. Does you feel like you guys have had enough time to sort of feel each other out that way? Rachael: She won’t care that you have feelings for her until she has feelings for you again. It just, it took a dog to set it off. Yeah, and I think when… and when we were discussing what did he go threw, he’s never had to [inaudible 00:49:59] serious breakup like this because I’m the first, so he didn’t really know how to handle it so it was new for him. So, you’re a big person for him. So, was that helpful in just coping or getting kind of realigning yourself after the breakup? So, you didn’t really do that? 1. So, neither one of us after the breakup were in a good spot. Rachael: This is self-explanatory, but basically, if your ex keeps reaching out to you it is a great sign that they feel there is some unfinished business between the two of you. I was like, “Oh, I got his attention again,” because I would see that he would like all… I never blocked him or anything, and I would see he would like all of my friend’s stuff but never would like any of my stuff. There’s a good chance that your girlfriend is simply acting distant because she is legitimately busy. You still did, like you said you did a 40 day no contact at one point, right? And he’s just like, “What the heck is going on?” I hadn’t seen him in two months because he was serving-. He has helped men from all over the world to get a woman back and he can help you too. Interesting, I would’ve expected touch for him. Chris Seiter: For the sake of the love we shared, please give me one more chance,” or “Please baby… you and I are soul mates. I just got back with my ex using your advice but now things are different. You want to get back together “for the kids.” A relationship is entirely separate from kids and family, and it needs to flourish and work on its own. You just need to know how a woman’s attraction works and then start doing what works. Well, I’m a book worm so I read it and then I actually had purchased your Ungettable Girl workbook because at that time I was-. Your email address will not be published. Chris Seiter: My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago. If you are unable to pick up on her signals of frustration, she will eventually lose interest and want to get out of the relationship, rather than having to become your teacher and guide you through the process of becoming a complete man. trying to convince her to give him another chance, apologizing over and over again, promising to change) is getting through to her, he might end up becoming argumentative. Yeah, I’m thinking back when I was 24 I felt a lot like you, so I felt like I kind of had a lot of it figured out but with time and age and experience you kind of realize it’s not the same. Even though he’s trying to reason with her, explain that he cares and promise that he can change, she’s just going to say something like, “I know that you mean well, but I don’t feel the same way about you anymore. Okay, so you said basically-. Chris Seiter: Rachael: Don’t you have a heart? This is me, I just look mad all the time. Rachael: Rachael: It did, yeah. They’re connected. Rachael: Rachael: Well, that says a lot about you though because it takes a lot to get into a long distance relationship off the bat, I mean, you really have to like that person. But I’ve also seen it swing the other way, so. Stopped making her feel feminine and girly in your presence (e.g. It was always the computer that you would get online. You can in Texas, but that’s, you know. So, that’s why it hurt so bad? And he was a non-commissioned officer so he’s in charge of 40 guys when he gets back. I had always wanted to return to the town we went to college in, but he wanted to stay in the town where he had been hired for a few years. So, we’re only like six week apart, so yeah. • The number one sign they will come back after a breakup…. Chris Seiter: So, I mean, we are also no talking enough about this big meet up that you had. Long distance relationships are peculiar because it is very easy to fall out of touch with your ex. So, was it simply just time that kind of triggers you out of that state? Chris Seiter: Chris Seiter: Do you ever feel like you got to a point where you found something like that? So, like, hey, I know you feel this, and I know you feel this, and I know you feel this, and then she’ll kind of be a little bit more willing to listen to what you have to say after you kind of hit her with everything she’s thinking inside. So, tactic wise, so you talked about the self improvement thing, and I’m happy to hear you say that because that’s the number one trend I see people cite. Rachael: But according to my opinion, if u want him back, u need to talk to your Ex clearly so that u will be clear i think without Ego.. she loses respect and attraction and shuts herself off even more). From his perspective, he may see her as being stubborn, selfish, bitchy, mean and cold. It worked on him, I’m sure. So, when you look back at the whole situation, what do you feel like was the most important thing to your success, just your opinion on it? Okay, so he’s got a lot on his mind? And my mom was always saying that… My poor mom was my therapist during this whole thing, and-. Rachael: Rachael: Okay. Clay Andrews and Mika Terao bring their client’s relationships back from the brink. Rachael: Rachael: He was like, “Were you that desperate?” I was like, “Yes, I was.” We talked about it and it was a long… that was like our really big deep conversation of what did he do while I over here and sobbing in misery, what did he do? Okay. Chris Seiter: It’s over.”. Rachael: Like my mom brought me food, I just was huddled. And I think preaching to the choir, it’s like you got to focus on yourself because if you don’t love yourself how could someone else love you? I never got a dating app or anything, it’s just people I knew. Rachael: Rachael: Chris Seiter: It’s more like guidelines. It was his first serious relationship and he panicked when we reached a year, and broke up. Rachael: That’s the thing, I haven’t really said, “I’m sorry yet.” This is the battle I’m fighting right now is her getting to like me. broke promises to her, regularly criticized her, stopped noticing her efforts to look good for you). You want to go home. Stay in touch with your ex following a long distance relationship breakup. Chris Seiter: Uh-Oh, so you communicate essentially to fix that issue? Some people eat everything in sight, and that would be like me, and then some people just stop. We were long distance at the time, and so I went up there and hung out for a weekend and then actually while I was up there is when I got the call back like, “Hey, we need you back at work in like three days.” So, then I have to fly back home and turn around and drive 14 hours and be at work. I think the biggest thing, he said it, is just seeing my confidence come out more, because I had been working on myself and he just like I reminded him-. He even admitted to it and said that I’d seemed distant and disinterested and that was why he looked elsewhere. No matter what I say or do, she just pushes me away. Chris Seiter: Not really goodbye, just like, “Have a nice life,” kind of. For example: A guy might say to himself, “I can’t lose her! Yet, trying to convince a woman to open up and give you another chance doesn’t make her feel attracted and drawn to you. So, he started liking that picture and I’m like, “Oh, well, you like that but not the other couple I posted?”. Because when you talk about don’t talk to many people, because I was getting so many opinions because me being me and being a problem solver I was talking to a lot of people like, “What do I do? Just accept it” or “I need some space so that I can figure out what I want from my life,” or “I just don’t want to be in a relationship anymore. A lot depends on whether you can show him/her that what you offer is better. All right, I don’t think you breaking the no contact rule like 10 times worked so well, but you eventually got it. Chris Seiter: Chris Seiter: I turn 24 actually next week and he’s 24. Chris Seiter: Rachael: Yeah, it was during your Facebook live and I said, “Personal belonging issues,” or something is what I said. Rachael: So, one thing that I’ve been also trying to advise people on recently, and I’d love to get your take on this, is trying to find something that you feel is more important than him. It’s a lot different situation now that I have kids and I’m married, I can kind of understand some of why they walk away sometimes. Rachael: At what point do you take to… because I’m assuming you probably go to Google and you start typing in how do I get my ex back? Yeah, I tucked my tail between my legs and moved back with my mom for… I was only furloughed for eight weeks. Chris Seiter: So, what was his experience of the breakup? So, first off, how are you doing, Rachael? Yeah, it was pre-COVID so it was, you know, I’m in the hospitality industry so it was popping at the time and now it’s dead. And I think just all that once when he started re-talking to me, you know, he… and he does admit he saw me in a different light. Chris Seiter: His indecisiveness to break up and this behavior on social media gives me hope he will come back. It’s then up to you to continue saying and doing the types of things that trigger her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you, until she feels that getting back together again is what she really wants. And so my crazy butt decided to drive up there. While the relationship has ended, the chances are pretty high that your ex holds a soft spot in their heart just for you. She then begins to ask herself, “Why have I been such a bitch to him? He broke up with me almost 2 years ago and we have had no contact since. Dan Bacon is 100% committed to helping men succeed with women. Yeah. Oh yeah, that’s true. You’re very very personable, you’re very good at talking. Chris Seiter: We’re in 110 degree weather. Because he’s always impressed with… he’ll even say it, like, “You can just walk into a room and make friends with five people right off the bat,” because I’ll just, you know? But he said, “When you stopped talking to me…” because he would part on base because they couldn’t go out either because they were shut down, he would just drink with his guy friends. The biggest indicator is when an ex flat out tells you they miss you and that they think that the breakup was a mistake. Chris Seiter: Here are 11 things that happened when my ex and I got back together. Rachael: Once he saw-. Given that we'd broken up in 2013 and this was the first I'd heard from him in … Rachael: Some guys who read that will think, “Why don’t women just say what they mean and tell us what they want us to do?”. insecure, desperate, clingy, self-doubting), it turns a woman off at a deep level. Rachael, you’re danger. I’ve seen lots of breakups because of COVID though. Rachael: Mm-hmm (affirmative). I’m literally his [crosstalk 00:49:49]-. restaurants, bars, clubs) and act surprised to see her there. So, you felt you didn’t want any inauthenticity to come through in your interactions with him. Okay, so you took the quiz and then the quiz is probably promoting the program itself. Background- He had moved away for a job after he graduated, about 2 montjs into us dating, and the plan was for me to move with him when I graduate next spring. Seeking pity is a form of emotional weakness. Chris Seiter: At one point, she came in and she’s like, “Are you just ever going to get out of bed?” I was like, “No. Is that the approach you kind of took? Oh. You’re used to the phone. For example: Some of the things a guy will do that will cause his ex woman to pull away from him even more are: This is one of the most common reactions that guys have when faced with the shock of being broken up with. I don’t know what to do to make her open up to me again. Please!”. Rachael: So, because to me it seems like the big problem that you had was your focus was so much on fixing things after this big blow up that you had and he maybe thinks, “Wow, she doesn’t have anything else other than just this.” That maybe just drew him back a little bit. Rachael: He hasn’t deleted me from our gaming app either. Most guys don’t know that it’s possible to re-attract an ex woman, so they feel like their situation is hopeless and there’s no chance of getting her back. Yeah, basically what we’re-. So, when a guy’s first reaction is begging and pleading, she will become distant in the hope that he will just leave her alone. … and them I’m assuming when you get into this it’s just like you’re throwing things out of left field that have nothing to do with the dog. I’ve been in about three serious relationships and was actually probably the worst break up I’ve ever had. Because this is when he got out of the desert is when I waited, and it turned into… I should’ve just left it at there, even Anna was like, “You just need to ask that, fix it, and then be done.” But me being me, I’m like, “So…” kind of like-. About 2 or 3 weeks after I visited for my birthday, I could tell something was wrong. Rachael: You have a life too you know! Yeah, we’re very opposites in that way, and figuring out our communication right now also is the biggest thing because I’ll say what I think, it’s got me in very problematic situations in the past, but I’ll say what’s on my mind right there and then without thinking and he needs time to process it. Chris Seiter: So, what do you feel going forward is your next steps with him? Rachael: Chris Seiter: And so, I started eating better and I’ve always been athletic but because of college and work I’ve slowly let myself go over the past couple years. Rachael: Required fields are marked *. Mm-hmm (affirmative). So, when my therapist got up all in my face and I’m very claustrophobic, that’s kind of when it clicked. Chris Seiter: Rachael: Rachael: And so, during that second no contact is when I had the Ungettable Girl workbook and I did use social media to my advantage. And the one thing I did keep to heart though is leaving conversation, because I would always hear you talk about this. Chris Seiter: And I really just should’ve called him and had communicated properly about it, but you know at the time it was-. When we he called, I was understandably upset, and he apologized and I asked if there was something wrong. Instead, he would remain confident in his ability to attract her and he would get on with doing that (e.g. Just give me chance. Read more… Why is She So Cold and Distant? I saw a lot of girls posting about that, it’s like, how do I do this because we’re not allowed to go anywhere? So, you did look busy, right. It was a job, it just happened to be in the same state. I was like, “I need to do the 45,” since it was such a bad breakup and I was Natting. Chris Seiter: Okay, today we’re going to be talking to Rachael who I have the pleasure of talking to. When a woman doesn’t feel much (or any) respect and attraction for a guy, him telling her how much he cares or giving her a list of great reasons for them to stay together just isn’t going to matter that much to her. At the same time. I am still hearthbroken but I don’t have any hope left. Yes, because I’ve always been his person, he would always complain about his job and stuff and I’d always be the person that would just stay up late to hear about him and then he would fall asleep on me. Rachael: It’ll come back to me. He just doesn’t know you.” He’s kind of that person at a party that’ll sit in the corner until… And he’s even said it himself with me, he’s like, “I would’ve never gone up to you at a bar. Right, right. I m advising u as my friend. I can undeniably say that’s true. I just want to be alone.”, What she really means is, “I’m breaking up with you because you don’t know how to make me feel respect, sexual attraction and love for you anymore. he’s being insecure, childish, immature, jealous and controlling), she’s not going to care how good things were at the start. Chris Seiter: Chris Seiter: Please complete this quick form to gain instant access. I had to make sure they were going to be alive because they’re 18 year olds not knowing what the heck they’re doing.” And when I kept Natting him he was like, “At one point we were working on a truck or something and I threw an ax and it almost hit someone.” He just delved into work and then he said that-. I don’t pay for anything else.” He’s like, “I paid for-”. Well, me and my mom went to… We have property down on the Gulf Coast, so she took me and that’s kind of where I was like, hey, I could use this to social media advantage and make it seem like I’m going out, which I literally took a picture of the beach and then walked back inside and went on the bed. Yeah, the COVID thing kind of… So, it’s more like a digital college from what-, Rachael: Chris Seiter: Okay, today we’re going to be talking to Rachael who I have the pleasure of talking to. But mostly what we’d like to do is get to the bottom of what Rachael did that’s different from everyone else who isn’t succeeding in winning their exes back. Rachael: It’s not going to kill you to stand up for yourself,” as a way of motivating him to become more ballsy. Rachael: If you are, then watch this free video by Dan to discover the secret to getting her back FAST. On the other hand, if you’re trying to get her back without first changing the things that really turned her off, she’s just going to keep being distant towards you. Yeah, I’m problem solver, and our communication has gotten better now now that we’re seeing each other more because he’s officially with me, not living with me, but back in the state that we’re in. You only know these people because of me,” and…, Chris Seiter: And so, our communication has really gotten better versus just having to talk on the phone all the time because we’re states away. Rachael: Do you feel this fight… Was there a reason that you didn’t try to escalate it over to the phone or talk in person? We can fix this. It is therefore very important to make considerable efforts to stay in touch with your ex immediately following a long distance relationship breakup. I don’t want to talk to you.”. Yeah. I am still in the NC period though so, I am really looking forward to everything working out and us getting back together . What’s next? I wish everyone else gets a happier story than me. I made the mistake of pushing, and saying “either you want to be with me and you love me or do you don’t, its a yes or no question, not maybe.” This made him angry and he repeatedly said “I don’t know, I’m confused,” until I pushed him to say “no, its over, I don’t love you anymore.” I told him he was making a mistake and that he would regret it because we were great together and I did so much for him. Chris Seiter: Rachael: I started to neglect my ex of 1.5 years for the last 3 weeks of a long distance quarantine relationship due to work and stress, met her parents when she came back to the same city, but didn’t spend time with her for 3 days after meeting her parents. She’s not feeling attracted to him, so she doesn’t care. Rachael: So, I decided to do a 45 and I got to about the 18 day mark, that’s the first time I broke it because I had posted in a Facebook live, like, we had PlayStations that were linked together. Chris Seiter: Why I got back with my ex. Yeah, right. You did not have a really easy break up, did you? So, seeing you go to this party where there’s other guys who could potentially hit on you is the ultimate inciting incident that causes him to reach out and start making realize I shouldn’t let her go? If … Chris Seiter: Find out if they still care about you. As long as you continue making her feel respect and attraction for you again, she will drop her guard and fully open herself back up to you. It really depends on the woman and how much she’s willing to put up with. Yeah, I did it like half way through the relationship, I was like, “I’m moving to where he’s going to back to eventually.”. Chris Seiter: Oh, yeah. We Went To Couples Therapy For A Little While. Took her for granted (e.g. I’d make my… because I’m not paying attention to him as much because I always had been his person to go to. You’ve got to get into the car if you want to drive. She sees him being emotionally weak at a time when she really needs him to be confident and emotionally strong. How you make her feel right now is what matters, not how you used to make her feel long ago. Your friends are constantly using you and you just can’t see it. I’m going to tell you that it’s over and you have no chance because I’m basing what I’m saying on how you’re making me feel now, not on how you could make me feel if you changed your approach.”. Just relax and allow the ex back process to happen. asking, “Why don’t you get some help? Yeah, so that’s kind of why I didn’t switch over to a phone call because I can’t call him because he’s out of signal somewhere. I can’t live with a guy like that. But so-. So, me and my now boyfriend because we got back together, but he was in the military and he just got out this summer so we’ve been long distance for a year and a half. Health, wealth, and relationships. Chris Seiter: This is really the key. Mm-hmm (affirmative). My dad was like, “Oh, you graduated, done. I just didn’t know what to say.”. Do you feel doing that, did you notice him actually start reaching out to you more after you did that? I need to give him another chance” and she subconsciously allows the walls around her heart to come down. However, if she continues to keep you at arms length and pretends not to be interested, don’t worry about it. I’ll try to hold his hand in public and he’s, like, “No.”, Rachael: Open to regular contact. Now this last week she is very unhappy and I cant get a reaction out of her, I will be seeing her for the first time in three weeks and she doesn't seem very excited for it. And that’s like the biggest thing I kind of got PO’ed about was I’m like, “He can just shut me off because he just doesn’t have to respond to his phone.” And I think the key was when we were starting to talk again making it flow smoothly so he doesn’t just block my number and leave. It was a confidence booster, and then I started working out, eating right, because I, you know, first six weeks was basically lethargic as my mom says it. Rachael: So, did you make new friends or something? There is no quicker, more effective way to get an ex woman back than what Dan teaches in this secret video. Oh, we talked about it. So, to me it just seems like an absolute matter of timing, like you-. And I joined ERP literally the day I got furloughed because I was like, “I’m SOL, what’s left?”. Which is funny because I am an emotional eater, I usually eat when I’m sad, but this… I wouldn’t even call it, just because I have struggled with depression and anxiety in the past, I don’t even know what this was. Rachael: Rachael: It also involved him lying to me about it till i foound everything out through his phone. He had a big surprise for me for my birthday the next week, was telling me he loved me, told me he’d be my date to my friends wedding, he got protective when someone flirted with me, his mom was talking to me like normal and inviting me to their place, he nade plans to visit me in my college town, etc. It just happened to work out that way. Chris Seiter: Rachael: Can you please get down? That was the end of February and then two weeks later I get furloughed because of COVID, so it’s like I got hit with a double whammy of losing my boyfriend who I hoped to marry one day and then I lost my dream job, because I just had graduated college and this was my first big girl job. I’m only giving you vague reasons because I don’t want to teach you how to re-attract me. Do I let her meet someone there, or-. It was through Snapchat and then it was just like small texting. Rachael: I was grasping at straws looking into all the minor details. I can talk to other people,” and then he’s like, “I’m working on it.” And so, his mind he officially wanted to ask me to be his girlfriend when I re-met his family again and kind of cleared the-. Yeah, I’ve had fights like that before. If u both has Ego, then things go worse.. 2. Allowed her to dominate you emotionally (e.g. He had it since he was a kind and it was always too big on him. Okay. I kind of feel like… Was this during my Facebook live? Okay. He’s a marine so he’s not a very-. Remember: To get an ex woman back, you have to focus on making her have feelings for you again. So, that’s almost like you got him back at that point, essentially. So, I focused on just on making my… because I let myself go for those first couple weeks, so just getting back and then trying to pick up my sad little bank account and then make friends, mostly online. I guess words of affirmation and quality time would be my two if I were to guess you. Rachael: The best way to get your ex to warm up to the idea of getting back together with you, is by actively making her have feelings for you again. Chris Seiter: Rachael: She never has time for me anymore. Another thing that will make her want to be even more distant with you is…. He’s thinking that it’s hopeless, but he’s not even doing anything to make her feel respect, sexual attraction and love! It is literally like getting rid of a drug addiction. And then trying to get myself financially better because obviously COVID slashed through my financial on that, and then what’s the other one in the trilogy? Rachael: He knew I was posting things-. She was like, “You were his person too,” because every day I’d be like, “I just want to talk to him,” and she’s like, “I know, but it’ll…” Because when I told her I got into this program… because she’s old school, like really old school. Chris Seiter: Which I didn’t tell him, “I’m going on a no contact.” It was just like, “I’m sorry for the breakup and how I responded to it. I really love you and I will change whatever it is that you need me change. Yeah, he distracted with that because he’s like, “I need to make sure they’re fed. I’m doing everything I can to make it up to you for hurting you and you don’t even have the decency to talk to me. Yeah, it did work on him and he just slowly but surely realized he misses me, he misses talking to me, and when he saw me with other males that’s when his alpha male kind of kicked in and was like, “Nevermind, that’s mine.”. Chris Seiter: I mean, most of our-. Words of affirmation. I think it’s been better than you think. You’re [inaudible 00:44:54] is super dangerous. Those devices are almost everything to us now if you think about it. 15. Rachael: All right. Four times, okay so when it finally-. You got lots of time on your hands, I guess. We talked about it a few times, and spent some time together and decided to get back together. He’s not even doing anything to re-attract her and is simply trying to convince her to give him another chance based on reasons that he is providing. Another thing that will make an ex become even more distant is…. He’s now back being a college student. So, when you start giving your ex the attraction experience that she really wants (without going to her and asking, “Now do you like me?”), she naturally begins to feel more respect and attraction for you. Make sure you carefully consider your ex's reasons for reaching back and wanting to get back together. Rachael: It goes without saying that annoying a woman is only going to make her be more distant not less. Rachael: I can say that is true. I think that’s what triggered him, because he even said, “You should find someone there.” I had no intent to date any of those guys. Rachael: So, my spaces are just [inaudible 00:14:57]. The No-Contact Rule. Chris Seiter: To keep a relationship together, you’ve got to make it better over time, rather than just starting out great, ruining the relationship and expecting her to stick around. Like what we’re doing basically. I was not very attractive looking at the end of the breakup. 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